“If you had stayed with your first love or your high school sweetheart, what would your life be like now?”
Mindbump suggested by Sunfire’s Random Babblings

We’ll call him J for simplicity’s sake. Since I’ve found him on Myspace I know what he’s up to in his life, as far as what his wife puts up there for him since he was never any good with computers and I’m pretty sure that as soon as she figured out who I was she removed me as a friend from his profile. What would life be like if we’d stayed together?

For one thing I’d probably be completely unhappy. J’s a sweet guy for the most part. However he could be a complete douchebag. We’d been together for most of junior high and high school, breaking up and making up in that high school way, gone to each other’s homecoming dances and my junior prom, and literally a month before my senior prom J dumps me because he thinks that I’m more interested in some guy from one of my classes that I mentioned, he’s got a couple of girls who may or may not be interested in him, etc, and oh, can he have back the money he chipped in for the tickets? Since I already had my tickets and dress purchased, I managed to convince one of my coworkers to go with me, a 16 year old kid who was thrilled to be slow dancing with a chick who had more than a handful in the boob department (that’s another story altogether, however).

After I got back from my time at URI J and I started going out again. When we split up this time around I didn’t even get dumped, he simply stopped speaking to me for 2 weeks, until I finally left him a message on his answering machine that just said “We need to talk, this involves the BOTH of us and is VERY important.” He (and his mother, who heard the message first) took this to mean that I was pregnant. I simply wanted to tell J that a guy I had dated briefly was threatening him as well as me after finding out that I’d started seeing J again.

Another reason I’d be unhappy is that J loved kids and wanted them. Me, on the other hand, can handle kids in small doses as long as they are not mine and I can give them back to their rightful owner. I’ve never had any sort of maternal instinct or desire to have kids, I just thought that it was something that you did when you got married. If J and I had stayed together I’d either have kids and be unhappy about that, or we’d be without kids and I’d be living in an unhappy marriage because he wanted them. Either way it’s not fair to anyone involved.

I’m totally happy with the way things turned out. If I had to wait 6 years after high school to find a guy that I’ll spend the rest of my life with, that’s 6 years well spent, in my opinion.

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